Who am I?

Hi there! I am Jose. I also go by Nino. I am a retired Army veteran who served our great nation for 23 years, and 10 months. Good times!

I am starting a blog about becoming a better version of myself. A better version of myself is being someone I always wanted to be, but just never knew how to act. I cheated on the women I loved, and I hooked up with women with no intentions to date. To those I loved and hurt, my sincerest apologies. If I would ever see you again, I would apologize in person.

I was born in Colombia but raised in New York and Miami. I am your typical city guy. What does that mean to me? It means, I am not a handy man, minimal car mechanical knowledge, and not a hunter. I do enjoy sports, travelling, the gym, going out with friends to sporting events or bars, hanging out at home with friends or family, poker, and playing sports. I joined the Army upon graduating high school. Since then, I have travelled and been stationed all over the world. Some of the few places I called home were Germany, Belgium, Alaska, and Charlottesville. I have deployed to Afghanistan, Iraq, Kuwait and Jordan.

I been married two times. If you ever met a military person, this is the norm. Embarrassing, right? Maybe or maybe not. My first marriage lasted six months but took us two years to finally be divorced. Deployment complications. My second marriage lasted seven years, but an additional four years to finally be divorced. In this case, it was overseas complications. I have two beautiful children with my second wife. A baby girl who is eleven and a baby boy who is seven. They are the coolest kids I know. Yes, this is what we all say about our children, but I mean it. My daughter is extremely sweet and kind, and my boy – well he is just too cool and athletic. He appeared in a German hip-hop video!

That is my short story in a nutshell. I am currently single as of December 2023. I started 2024, thinking to myself it’s a time to enjoy freedom and single hood. There is no judgement to that life-style as it can be lots of fun. I know from experience. February 3rd, 2024, I found out my ex-girlfriend of five years was seeing someone exclusively. I felt a huge deal of pain. I no longer want to ever feel that pain, and in return, I no longer want to cause that pain on anyone!

I will blog about how I feel and ways I am dealing with my break-up. I hope to hear feedback and maybe more than one person out there can relate with me.